Not Enough

Often, men will say they aren’t enough.  They aren’t doing enough, they aren’t making enough, they aren’t smart enough, fast enough, strong enough, rich enough, handsome enough.  

They aren’t a good enough father, husband, son, employee, or friend. 

Recently, a client of mine was going to do nothing intentionally for an afternoon…he worried he wouldn’t do enough of nothing. We were able to have a good laugh there, because once you begin to track the pattern and the underlying message of “you’re not enough”, it’s actually absurd.  

But when you’re caught up in it…

It’s a living hell.  

Caught up in the never-ending cycle of never being enough. 

Enjoyment and satisfaction are fleeting.  

Rest and relaxation are few and far between.  

And there’s data all day long to reinforce the point that you are not enough. Compare yourself to this, that, him or her and you’re left feeling like you’re not enough.  

Sometimes, even the dog or cat has it better.  

Most men are enraged by this cycle.  You give it everything you’ve got and still, you aren’t enough, it isn’t enough, they aren’t happy enough, nothing is enough.  

There’s never enough sex, money, or power. 

And “you’re not enough” is about more than just penis size.  

There’s compensation everywhere in your life because of a shortfall.  Not outside of you, in what you earn through your bank account or social status, but internally.  A void, that when ignored grows as though begging for attention, and our impoverished culture can only feed the void junk that doesn’t satisfy and counsel that lacks wisdom.  

If you’re sick and tired of the same damn loop and you’re ready for a course correction, my course work will help you.  Here’s why I can help.    

I’ve struggled.  

I struggle. 

I’ll struggle more. 

But not like I used to.  I used to run and hide. And I’m doing that less and less.  

And more and more I’m finding depths of connection, intimacy, laughter, tears, courage, and playfulness that I’ve wanted my whole life.  

Because, less and less I fight against my own emotional experience and more and more I’m wholeheartedly accepting the variety of life’s difficult offerings.  

And I want to share with you what I’ve learned from my life, my own healing journey, my clinical experiences, and my education.  

I’ve seen men as clients for over 15 years, and I know this to be true - we men need a lot of help.  A lot.  And it can be really, really difficult for us to ask for help.  

My course, carefully crafted over time, has the potential to kick your ass in a new direction…with a rather welcoming, understanding approach. 

I’ve zeroed in on the core elements needed for change, focusing on the most common trigger points and motivations important to men.  

You want your life to work, your relationships to function and thrive, you want to be connected and feel alive and at ease with yourself and others.  

I can help you get there.  

Reach out today.  Let’s get you moving in the right direction before you lose out on another day, week, month, or year cycling through the same old shitty patterns. 

Let’s get to work, working for you.